“When we have the courage to publicly heal our wounds, our entire community is given greater access to their healing as well.” – Nekole Shapiro

“Remember that changing an entrenched family pattern is only for the boldest among us.” – Harriet Lerner

“My words may not be pretty enough for you, but they are true and they are mine.” – Mariann Martland

Listening: The Secondary Trauma.

“If you are a man who is becoming upset/depressed/overwhelmed/hopeless/defensive when you listen to the women in the world/your life talk about their experiences, you need to talk about it. With another man. I really, really mean this. You absolutely need to talk to another guy. A guy you are friends with and who you trust […]

“When the universe is ready for your transformation, the energy is unforgiving. Either you allow it to transform your life with ease, or it will tear shit apart, starting with your self image, and the life you’ve built up that is not based on the truth of your soul.” – Jerome Braggs

“To be fully alive, fully human, and completely awake is to be continually thrown out of the nest. To live fully is to be always in no-man’s-land, to experience each moment as completely new and fresh. To live is to be willing to die over and over again.” – Pema Chödrön

Tech: The Newest Frontier of White Supremicy

I was just talking with an old friend about the ‘boys club’ we were a part of when I worked with him in tech. This article, in my opinion, is spot on – and I relate to the experiences of invalidation, lack of support, and having the sexist and marginalizing behaviors of others defended against […]

“Ours is a culture that treats grief — a process of profound emotional upheaval — with a grotesquely mismatched rational prescription” – Maria Popova

We need Allies, not Gentleman.

Learn to be an accountable presence working on your shit, not merely a non-rapist or a non-murderer. Because communicating ‘It’s/I’m not like that’ instead of ‘I’m so sorry that happened, what do you need,’ is being ‘like that.’ http://www.mediacoop.ca/blog/norasamaran/30866

“Be wary of your desire to just seek proof of your goodness, rather than actually being a good person” – Nora Samaran

“The greatest gift you can give someone is your own personal development.” – Jim Rohn

I finally get why our history was so cavalierly bloody. In the old days before blocking and email filtering, we’d just have to kill ya.

Never trust someone who identifies as incapable of throwing a fit. All that means is they’re doing it silently, probably most of the time.

“For a seed to achieve its greatest expression, it must come completely undone. The shell cracks, its insides come out and everything changes. To someone who doesn’t understand growth, it would look like complete destruction.” – Cynthia Occelli

“You,” he said, “are a terribly real thing in a terribly false world, and that, I believe, is why you are in so much pain.” ― Emilie Autumn

The path to Enwhitenment

This is one of the most brilliantly written, keenly observed social criticisms I’ve ever read. It rings in part for just about every spiritual white person I’ve ever met, including myself; I both mirror my own misguided aspects of it, and fiercely recognize this as a set of core ideals in SO many people I’ve […]

A Gentleman’s Guide to Rape Culture

Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s […]

Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom. – Aristotle

Regarding Elliot

“Men are afraid women will laugh at them. Women are afraid men will kill them.” – Margaret Atwood.

“Imagine if your beliefs guarantee you can never get to where you want to go” – Tony Robbins

“The reason I’m stronger is that I’ve done the work.” – nee

Brenè Brown: A Video Walkthrough.

“Maybe stories are just data with a soul.” -Brené Brown I shared this 2010 TED speech long ago, and longer still before that, and I will keep periodically sharing and adding new talks as Brenè continues in her incredible work. Her follow-up from 2012 is awesome, too, and reminds me of many, many things I’ve […]

“Nobody will protect you from your suffering.” ― Cheryl Strayed

“Artists are people driven by the tension between the desire to communicate and the desire to hide.” ― Donald Woods Winnicott

“We must do away with the absolutely specious notion that everybody has to earn a living. It is a fact today that one in ten thousand of us can make a technological breakthrough capable of supporting all the rest. The youth of today are absolutely right in recognizing this nonsense of earning a living. We […]