Quincy Blaque Trio: The Drunkening

This song causes me to rather desperately miss partner dancing. Which is its own kind of sick little twisted irony. Uneasy Listening Music by Quincy Blaque As quiet as a dead mouse and as bored as a tick And a thousand drinks later We’ll take home anything that’s thick Cause the secrets are dirty As […]

On white supremist heteropatriarchy in America

“When White people made the rules hundreds of years ago, they never counted on us being free. This is what [Ferguson] is about.” – A Black Grandmother I’ve become very passionate over the last two years about social evolution, which means I’m paying a lot of attention to social justice. Racism and Sexism are my […]

Why poor people stay poor

It’s amazing what things that are absolute crises for me are simple annoyances for people with money. Because our lives seem so unstable, poor people are often seen as being basically incompetent at managing their lives. That is, it’s assumed that we’re not unstable because we’re poor, we’re poor because we’re unstable. So let’s just […]

Bad/failed relationships? READ THIS.

Oof. This AMAZING article is saying all the stuff I’m living but hadn’t articulated yet. Preparing us for marriage is, ideally, an educational task that falls on culture as a whole. We have stopped believing in dynastic marriages. We are starting to see the drawbacks of Romantic marriages. Now comes the time for psychological marriages. […]

The Pomplamoose Problem

This explosion of vitriol illustrates the absurd standard America holds artists to. It’s a dangerous, impossible standard that is repressing self-expression and killing culture. It’s not dissimilar in impact to the political arguments that keep so many living in poverty by voting against their own interests for politicians who take away services that were at […]

These are the places rape culture starts

This is an amazing account of the very real corrosion and trauma that results in loved ones blaming the victim of sexual abuse/assault in the name of trying to make everything ok again. I related to this, and I am glad I got away. http://www.buzzfeed.com/michelletea/my-stepfather-the-peeping-tom

Listening: The Secondary Trauma.

“If you are a man who is becoming upset/depressed/overwhelmed/hopeless/defensive when you listen to the women in the world/your life talk about their experiences, you need to talk about it. With another man. I really, really mean this. You absolutely need to talk to another guy. A guy you are friends with and who you trust […]

Tech: The Newest Frontier of White Supremicy

I was just talking with an old friend about the ‘boys club’ we were a part of when I worked with him in tech. This article, in my opinion, is spot on – and I relate to the experiences of invalidation, lack of support, and having the sexist and marginalizing behaviors of others defended against […]

We need Allies, not Gentleman.

Learn to be an accountable presence working on your shit, not merely a non-rapist or a non-murderer. Because communicating ‘It’s/I’m not like that’ instead of ‘I’m so sorry that happened, what do you need,’ is being ‘like that.’ http://www.mediacoop.ca/blog/norasamaran/30866

The path to Enwhitenment

This is one of the most brilliantly written, keenly observed social criticisms I’ve ever read. It rings in part for just about every spiritual white person I’ve ever met, including myself; I both mirror my own misguided aspects of it, and fiercely recognize this as a set of core ideals in SO many people I’ve […]

A Gentleman’s Guide to Rape Culture

Rape Culture is an environment in which rape is prevalent and in which sexual violence against women is normalized and excused in the media and popular culture. Rape culture is perpetuated through the use of misogynistic language, the objectification of women’s bodies, and the glamorization of sexual violence, thereby creating a society that disregards women’s […]

Brenè Brown: A Video Walkthrough.

“Maybe stories are just data with a soul.” -Brené Brown I shared this 2010 TED speech long ago, and longer still before that, and I will keep periodically sharing and adding new talks as Brenè continues in her incredible work. Her follow-up from 2012 is awesome, too, and reminds me of many, many things I’ve […]

Coffee and Milk by Lora Zombie

I wanna be able to make watercolor pictures and I wanna be able to make pretty ones that look awesome without having to learn how or practice I just wanna be able to do it all amazinglike the first time when I’ve never tried before and CLEARLY I AM A FAILURE FOR NOT BEING CAPABLE […]

Violence and Silence: Jackson Katz, Ph.D

Everything about this video is Good Shit. Everything.

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